Yesterday my younger sister said: "I think you're such a "together mom." I laughed and thought: how easily we can deceive! :) As any woman knows, we often don't feel inside like the person the world sees outside.
She explained that I often seem so certain about my choices and decisions. Clearly I' m not, but I thought that over. And I realized that over the years -- despite my shortcomings -- I have developed a better sense of who I am and what I want.
There are things that I'm passionate about... knowledgeable about... and good at -- things that developed over time. I also realize that I have plenty left to learn and correct. As they say, "you're never as smart as your mother."
But it does feel good to get to a point in life where you have a reasonable degree of confidence in yourself. For me, I attribute that to God (He's first for me) and a really supportive and loving family who keep me going.
I realize not everyone's blessed to have that. I encourage women who don't, to support yourself. Recognize that there's something unique about you. Something good. Something beautiful. Something creative. Something wonderful! Something another woman can admire.
Find that thing that makes you feel good about yourself, and pursue it. It will help you build confidence.
If you're young, enjoy your youth and relish your experiences. Immerse yourself in them. Learn from them. They are shaping the woman you will become. And don't be in a hurry -- it takes time.
If you're older, draw joy from your accomplisments: the husbands you supported, the children you raised, the home you created, the career at which you excelled, the church or community groups you supported, the people you uplifted, and most importantly, the challenges you overcame.
And please don't forget to share your pearls of wisdom with those of us following in your path. We may not always say it, but we appreciate each and every one.
News Mom "T"
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As "me" a stay at home mom currently with a six year old, the journey has been a huge learning proccess. I had my first child and only child at almost 40...I struggled with infertility and finally after my second IVF had my son. Having a child late in life has been hard--most of the friends I grew up with have teenagers. My first year was very lonely. I quit working to raise my pride and joy. I had to find a new group of friends since my other friends were busy raising older children and or working. Its taken a long time to find the new me. The biggest lesson I learned was make time for "me". After my son was a year old my mom offered to take him one day a week. At first I didn't want give him away for a day. Now I live for my day off. I struggled to find something I could do by myself and I took up golf because I can go by myself, talk to adults and hit things. The lesson is make time for yourself. You will be a better mom, friend, lover and a happier person.
As "me" a stay at home mom currently with a six year old, the journey has been a huge learning proccess. I had my first child and only child at almost 40...I struggled with infertility and finally after my second IVF had my son. Having a child late in life has been hard--most of the friends I grew up with have teenagers. My first year was very lonely. I quit working to raise my pride and joy. I had to find a new group of friends since my other friends were busy raising older children and or working. Its taken a long time to find the new me. The biggest lesson I learned was make time for "me". After my son was a year old my mom offered to take him one day a week. At first I didn't want give him away for a day. Now I live for my day off. I struggled to find something I could do by myself and I took up golf because I can go by myself, talk to adults and hit things. The lesson is make time for yourself. You will be a better mom, friend, lover and a happier person.
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